You and Zap are in a unique situation, seeing how you both are in the same house. Like you said, he proof read your turns in your first game. Think about explaining your moves to him in an email or in IM with him if you where still living in Florida and he wasn't. For the experience players to help the new players, we have to know that they are new. When I’m plowing through someone territory, that isn’t the time for them to say, “Hey, I’m new to this game”.
The best advice I can give any new player who might be reading this, is to signup for the vanilla (No Frills) games to learn the basics, ask questions (I think the forums would be a good place) and the first race you see (not come in connect with), send them an email or in game message asking if they are willing to be your ally. There response could be one of several answers 1) Sure, we can be allies, 2) No, but I won’t attack you if you don’t attack me, 3) You get no reply, which could be mean the other player has figured out that you as easy pickings or doesn’t understand your language. Unfortunately, we all know that there are people out there who look at new players as easy way to get more points, MCs, and planets.
As I said earlier, I’m willing to have a new player as an ally just let me know so that I can offer some suggestions. I think for the most part, most players will help other player if they ask. I may turn them down, not because they are new but because I don't like to have more than 1 ally per game.
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